Our words matter.

Most people feel wary of talking about mental health, especially suicide, yet we know talking about our struggles can be lifesaving. We want to make it clear of the best things to say and avoid to make these vital conversations easier. 

Words wield the power to either perpetuate stigma or dismantle it, affecting not only how individuals grappling with thoughts of suicide view themselves but also influencing societal perceptions at large. This increasing consciousness has led to a critical examination of certain terms and phrases used in suicide discourse, with a particular spotlight on the phrase “commit suicide.”

The term “commit suicide” is problematic because “commit” has long been intertwined with actions considered morally reprehensible or legally wrong, such as committing a crime or committing adultery.

It was illegal to attempt suicide in the UK until 1961 (madness, we know) and this phrase stems from those archaic times.

Using the phrase “commit suicide” suggests a wrongful act that merits punishment or condemnation. Such framing not only deepens the stigma surrounding suicide but also amplifies the shame and isolation experienced by individuals grappling with suicidal ideation and their loved ones.

Those of us closely affected by suicide often wince when hearing this phrase. As our founder, Ellie MacDonald states:

“My dad did not commit a crime or a sin. He was poorly and an illness took him away. It hurts when I hear this phrase, it’s far kinder to say ‘died by suicide’ ‘took their own life’ or ‘killed themselves’ though the latter isn’t the kindest phrase either.

“Most people do not use this phrase to cause pain, they are simply ignorant in understanding the hurt this phrase insinuates and why it’s a commonly used phrase which is outdated and it’s up to us to help move such archaic language along and use kinder alternatives.”

To learn more about language in mental health and suicide prevention and how to help, book onto one of our training courses.